This quote pretty much sums up my life:
I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing!
~ Agathe Christle
London, England:
What a beautiful place!?! London reminds me a lot of New York City: pubs, taxis, incredibly expensive, beautiful people, luxury accommodations, restaurants, parks and Broadway shows. Overall impression.....London was a crowded, fast and huge bustling city.
I stayed in Greater London for my conference (but traveled into the city during the evenings) and that area was more like a lot of little towns and villages joined together. Each neighborhood seemed to have its own character. Some were very nice. Some were dangerous and unsettling. Much like NY there seems to be a vast range of wealth. It appears that some of the richest people in the world live in London. On the other hand, some very poor people live on the streets in cardboard boxes too.
The tube (London’s underground subway) is pretty brilliant; you can cross the city quickly and easily, and it is one of the best-connected systems I’ve been on (after NYC of course lol). London when measured against other major cities in the world seems to still be worthy of its place near the top of the list as one of the world’s top cities. I think the pubs and food moved their ranking to the top for me!
Summer in NYC:
So my summer in NYC was a whirlwind, tornado, cyclone all wrapped in one (Elena told me it would be and I should have listened)! It is impossible to put into context the amount of people you feel obligated to see, dinners and drinks, and money I spent getting together to see some familiar faces. While it was a very exhausting and time consuming trip, I appreciated every moment of catching up with family and friends. A lot has changed since I have been gone in Qatar; but many things stayed the same. While it was comfortable to come home to familiar surroundings, I found myself feeling out of place in my longtime home. Didn’t think it would only take me one year for me to realize that living in NYC isn’t for me anymore.
The things you learn as you get older (and hopefully wiser)...
- The rumors are true: your metabolism does slow down as you get older! That means if you’re still eating whatever you want, there’s a good chance you’ll start to gain an awkward amount of weight.
- You’re going to have people in your life who are toxic. They may say that they love you, they may say that they have your back, but they don’t. Get rid of them.
- Always swallow your pride to say you’re sorry. Being too proud to apologize is never worth it — your relationship suffers for no good benefit. (my husband helped me learn this)
- The moment is all there is. All our worries and plans about the future, all our replaying of things that happened in the past — it’s all in our heads, and it just distracts us from fully living right now. Let go of all that, and just focus on what you’re doing, right at this moment.
- You can’t motivate people. The best you can hope for is to inspire them with your actions.
- You are so lucky to have everything that you have. Stop crying about stupid shit and get some perspective.
Year 2
The next segment of my journey in the Middle East has officially begun. We just moved into the flat at the Pearl, which is a man-made Island here in Doha Qatar (kinda dope). The pearl tower we moved into is similar to our apartment back in NYC, except the amenities in this tower makes this a huge upgrade in terms of apartments. Lap pool, Jacuzzi, sauna, squash/tennis court, bbq deck area, fitness gym, doorman, concierge, taxis on call, maid service, and 2 bathrooms (yes lord two lol). As I sit back here in my new pearl Doha flat taking in the sights, smells, and sounds; and all I can think is that God has truly blessed me and taken me down a path unforeseen. Now don’t get me wrong the work and hours I will have to put in this year will be compensation for these perks and accommodations…but its all worth it right?
If someone asked me two years ago back at Lighthouse where I would be today, I would say with certainty in a Principalship somewhere in the inner city. Just goes to show you that our plan isn’t always what God has planned for us. His plan is divine and great....way beyond our imagination.
Selina,
ReplyDeleteThanks for this post, it was just what I needed to hear and read. I agree, life is about the moments and we should live each day as if it were our last. In light of what has happened in my life recently, your words were very uplifting. Thanks.
Looking forward to hanging out with you in Qatar soon...
Hey NINA! For the last two hours, which is VERY unusual for me for the last few months, I have been on the computer browsing. I was not completely satisfied with the time consumption and kept saying that I was going to get off but, of course, I hadn't done so. Well, I am now so very happy that I didn't do so because I would have missed your post and who knows when I would have returned to visit my emails because I just don't do so frequently anymore.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that I missed your visit back home. I went to see Lisa about six weeks ago after calling her and finding out the number I had was no longer in service. Apparently, she changed her number and didn't tell me. Of course, she isn't required to do so but I found it strange since last we spoke before she changed her number. At any rate, I was lucky enough to catch her sitting outside on the stoop and she told me at that time that you were coming home in the weeks ahead. I asked her to get in touch with me when you came home but of course it didn't happen. I tried calling her from time to time but the number she gave me goes to a phone that is never turned on and leaving a message for her was futile to me since it appears that hearing from me has some effect on her that she prefers to avoid.
In all, it is great that you are manifesting a destiny of diverse measures. And by the quote you open this blog with and the great words of wisdom you bestow on us as we age, you are no doubt on a course of immeasurable success in this world...you are truly "(the) a voice of reason". I felt so connected by that quote and for you to affirm it in your own rite of passage, leads me to offer the same; because albeit, the sorrow, the despair, the losses, in all, it is truly a grand and great thing to just be alive. Yes, to see all the things happening in the world, to participate in all the newness of life, technology and continued modernization is a wonderful thing. Moreover, to be able to communicate with you at this time, is a grand thing.
Give my love to all and that great brother beside you, Mr. Marquis. ALL THE BEST MY DEAR.
LOVE,
DAUD
Hello my lovely. Its always nice to read your blogs. For some strange reason your words are always right on time....getting you to be down in the dirty South would be my selfish treat!!! Love you both and see yall soon!
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