I’d
like to start this blog post with a note I wrote to a dear friend recently…who
struggled with many of the same job-related issues that I faced over the past
few months.
As an adult it is
much more difficult to forge new friendships and maintain old ones. It is important to hold on to a few people
who truly inspire you....who give
you hope and feed your soul with positivity when negativity is beating you
down. I'm thankful for our conversations and for the inspiration that you have
given me (even when you didn't know). Sometimes God puts people in our life for
a reason....and those very rare few
special people confirm the light at the end of the tunnel for us….and that
motivates us to keep moving forward.
As
the Thanksgiving holiday passes another year, I found myself seriously reflecting
on past and present friendships and the holistic value that they play in my
life. I thought long and hard about what
friends are good to keep in my life and which ones needed to be let go. And I guess the overall conclusions I came to
made me rethink the importance of people in my life and how much I am willing to
give in return for their friendship.
1.
Time doesn't equal friendship.
I’ve made the mistake of thinking that just because I have known a
person for months/years that I should remain friends with them, even when the
friendship is empty and I get nothing in return from the relationship.
2.
Friendships are not one sided. A
friend doesn't only call you when they need something, are having drama, or need
to ask for a favor.
3.
Friends keep you positive and help you stay grounded. If someone doesn't feed your soul or push you
to become a better person each day, then it doesn't make sense to continue calling
them a friend.
Life in Qatar one year
later……
Over
a year ago, I was anxious for a change in my life but couldn’t figure out if
that change was a new apartment, new job, or new city. After many conversations
with friends, family, mentors and just about anyone who would listen to me talk
– I realized it was all of the above. I
was ready to leave the city maybe the country and start out on an adventure
that was not predetermined. I no longer
wanted to be caught in the “Busy Trap” of NYC. In NYC, busy meant working hard and playing hard. It meant spending less time with loved one as
my job occupied most of my time, and partying hard ranked pretty high in
exchange for my daily hard work.
Don't
get me wrong I adore the changing colors of the Empire State Building lights; I
enjoyed sitting on the steps of Brownstones drinking margaritas in the summer;
I liked fighting through the snow and sludge to grab hot chocolate from Dunkin
Donuts before keeping warm in a lounge around Christmastime. And most of all I love
the fabulous, fiery friends I spent many nights with laughing until I almost
peed on myself.
I
DO STILL miss all of those things!
But
a year ago, it was hard for people to believe that life exists outside of NYC
and I certainly was hoping that the decisions I made would lead me to the life
I was looking for. Well, a year later
have I found what I was searching for? Only
now have I come to realize how important leaving was for my sanity, as well,
for my immense desire to change/switch up my lifestyle. Getting out of New York helped me rediscover
the outside world, while living in Doha has reminded me to ignore the world if
you're happy with where you are (in life) and what you're moving toward. So with that said Doha is not the last stop
on my destination unknown…..but I’m enjoying the moments that I couldn't have
in NYC while maintaining vigilance of new opportunities and/or signs of a change
to come.
The Baby is
coming…..100 day countdown
As
wonderful as the idea of pregnancy can be, it is also one of the most stressful
life events that a couple goes through especially after having a previous
miscarriage. I have always felt that society
and the media, all too often project pregnancy as a perfect condition
that results in the birth of a beautiful bundle of joy at the end of a problem-free nine months lol. But the
more you ask around, the more you find out that a vast majority of women
encounter issues contrary to this perfect pregnancy idea.
While
my pregnancy in
general has been rather painless (up until now with the back pain), all the “other
things” that an expecting mom loses sleep over is really starting to kick in. I find myself laying awake think about
everything from sleepless nights in a few months, to nursing, to my whole world
changing, to my focus being only on this small little human. It’s frightening to think that the life I
once knew will be completely turned upside down! Whew
With
that said I do believe pregnancy and the moments leading to pregnancy can be a
time for enormous personal growth. As I
am preparing for the most important, challenging, and rewarding job “they say”
I could ever have, I am constantly reexamining my anxiety.
